One of the reason why the 17th and 18th century had powerful men- ranging from inventors , discoverers, innovators, conquerors, educators , revivalist and reformers was because the “women stood by their men”.
Women took their place as “helpmeet”.
HELP MEET:
“And the YeHoVaH Elohim said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him” (Genesis 2:18).
An Help Meet is a woman with the Power to Serve.
Ezer Kenegdo– Help Meet
Things changed one day when I learned more about the Hebrew words translated as “help meet” in the King James Version of the Bible..
The phrase translated as “help meet” comes from two Hebrew words, ezer and kenegdo.
Ezer means “help,” but in a distinct way. In English, a “helper” is sometimes thought of as someone in a low position, but ezerdescribes strength. It suggests that the individual has power to rescue others. Ezer is used 21 times in the Old Testament, always describing a person with the capacity allowing one to help, protect, or aid.
In most of these cases, ezerdescribes the way God offers help to rescue humankind. A woman is not in your life to keep you comfortable she is in your life to make you an accomplished!
Though its meaning is less definitive, scholars agree that kenegdo means “corresponding to” and “opposite to.” It describes two things that are next to each other and complementary to each other, but different from each other—like facing opposites.
Putting these two terms together, we see that ezer kenegdo suggests that God created Eve in counterpart to Adam, with the power to rescue and serve. “Help meet” is not a label of inferiority but an acknowledgment of strength!
How the Decline Began!
While the calling to serve and nurture has often been portrayed by society as weak or inferior, ezer kenegdo teaches that part of the woman’s God-given nature includes a strength to serve.
The first wave of feminism took place in the late nineteenth and early twentieth centuries, emerging out of an environment of urban industrialism and liberal, socialist politics. The goal of this wave was to open up opportunities for women, with a focus on suffrage. The impact of this movement is the removal of “women” from their God assigned place!

Did you ever hear about Susan Wesley the mother of John and Charles Wesley? Did you hear about Sarah Edwards ? The wife of the revivalist Jonathan Edwards. Sarah Edwards was a Puritan who took her faith very seriously. She raised her eleven children, largely by herself, as Jonathan Edwards focused on sermons and books. She took her place and allowed her husband to shine!
The woman standing by her husband doesn’t dim her light. It brightens her the most.